Living in the RV is hard. It is not that it is awful, not that we don't have what we need, it is just hard. There are 20 things that have to be done before going to bed - that don't include brushing teeth, getting into night clothes and making sure you have water. This is 20 things that literally have to happen before you can physically get in the bed.
If we are eating, no one can go to the bathroom until everyone gets up and moves. It is just tedious and difficult.
College Boy is home and is acting so strange. He does not have a place to stay except with us, so we are now 5 in this RV - 2 in the bunks and one in a blowup mattress on the floor. Since this is all one room, we all have to go to bed at the same time (impossible). Since CB works sometimes to midnight, that means when he comes in - no matter how quiet, we all wake up. My sleep is difficult at best, but downright awful now - I sleep maybe 3 hours a day right now and I know that it is causing my emotional state.
CB is also struggling with what to do in life. After changing majors, he is not sure. Sigh, I am hurting for him. We talked about it, but there is no hard decision. This will be more organic. I did tell him that he cannot keep changing majors though - he just needs to finish and then we decide where to go.
My builder is not looking good right now - he seems very stressed and I think he is frustrated with us.
I feel my husband and I slipping just a bit, but we are hanging in there. No privacy is really starting to affect us. He is not telling me things and I am not telling him things because the kids can hear and they don't need to. We have not sat down and gone over money in over a month.
With all this, I am not wanting a fix - I just want to share what you might go through when building - this sucks big time!
So, I have lost the excitement about the house. It is just a house. My husband is over the moon excited - the patio is so great, the shower is so great, the living room is huge.... on and on and on. Me, just a critical eye - I am not sure we can get furniture in the master, the door is too small, we need another window here. I am like a machine. Booking appointments to look at barnwood, rushing to meet the contractors at a moments notice, giving kudos to all the contractors and builder constantly. I am drained.
So when this happened and I did not get excited. I knew - yep, I am broken or drained or whatever. I have zero excitement about this.
sorry you are having a rough time of it. But look! you have a house frame! I have a friend who just went through what ended up being a year long build on a vacation house. She was so excited at first but by midpoint and all their problems she didn't care one bit about it, just wanted it done and over.
ReplyDeleteLOL - that is so where I am right now. So much has happened that I just want to get done.
DeleteCan you put up a tent for the kids to sleep in outside?
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, no. No tents are allowed in the RV park and we would not feel comfortable leaving them on the property by themselves. We have bobcats in the area.
DeleteI am so sorry that you are hurting right now. I can only imagine how stressful building a house is. I enjoy seeing your pictures and hearing about your progress. I hope your excitement about the project returns.
ReplyDeleteThere is just too much going on that my head hurts! It will get better - I know it will. Just a rough patch with my kiddo, and the in-laws.
DeleteYou are getting a lot of things thrown at you right now. Perhaps you need a day or two away from (what will be) your new house. Could your hubby check on it for a couple of days and give you a break from thinking about it? The 11 months we spent dealing with real estate, the majority of the responsibility fell on me. Not my hubbies fault as his work keeps him away for weeks at a time. There were times I honestly felt like I was suffocating under all the stress. Sometimes you just need to make yourself take a mental break from it all.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right! The stress is staggering and I had no idea. Hubs tries, but his job is super stressful, so I try and take the load. My fault for not sharing!
DeleteI"m sorry - it sounds like SO MUCH work, and that's just coming from an outsider. Stress is very hard on people who give 100%, as they continue to try & absorb every last element to get things done & make things easier on others. Ask me how I know. ;-)
ReplyDeleteBig hugs. Take a deep breath, maybe plan an outing for a few hours, just for yourself. Go to the library, get a cool drink, read a trashy book. Something cheap/free but relaxing.
I know how you know - you probably only post 1% of all the things you take on! I worry about you though - you need limits as well!
DeleteI am doing better today - some issues were resolved and my baby is coming home from camp.
Oh, I was reading kind of deep books, but after the last one that reminded me too much of my childhood, I decided that right now in life - trashy books are the only kind I need to read, a nice, easy story where everybody loves each other at the end! LOL - that and a glass of wine!
Is there no place to stash children, like at friend's house, so you and husband have a bit of breathing space and a chance to talk and reconnect?
ReplyDeleteHow soon can you move your rv to your house lot? That would ease the sense of being cramped, I think.
No, noone can take all of them, then their friends cannot take them all at once. Difficult - we do not have a lot of friends and no family is here. The younger two are going to my sister's in a couple of weeks for a whole week, but my with my 19 year old now living here, we won't have alone time really. We are hanging in there.
DeleteWe actually cannot move the RV to the lot until the house is ready for move in - that is our neighborhood and our mortgage company's regulations. I KNOW it would ease that sense and I am going to try to see if we can sneak in anyway closer to the end.
Since, my adult son is here - hubs and I have considered getting a hotel for one night (close by). We will see.