Health wise - I just do not seem to be able to get on top of it. I know - self-love and time. My energy is very low, but it has been a very gray winter for us and I am a sun needer! Living in an area that most days are sunny - having 3 weeks of gray is getting to me. There was a little sun yesterday, but I slept most of it after the weekend I had.
I have ended up NOT keeping my nephew. He had epic meltdowns and I just don't have the energy to deal with them. They are BAD! He hits my sister, kicks her - calls her names, is belligerent...It is really bad and he is only 4. I think there may be something wrong with him, but she is in denial. She is not parenting correctly either, but I don't know if there is a right way - I really think something is wrong. When I say she is parenting wrong - she offers treats (like a new toy) if he behaves, he doesn't, she gives him 20+ chances, then he still gets the treat. So, I don't know if this is a learned pattern, or he has issues (I say issues because they run on my sister's side and her husband's side - bi-polar, personality disorder, etc) My sister and I have different fathers.
Anyway, it was just best if he went back with them this time. We will do it another time.
So, yesterday, I was so exhausted about dealing with them the whole weekend and those fits - plus getting up at 5:30 daily and not getting to sleep until after midnight, that I was literally walking through my room to get something, fell in the bed and fell asleep on top of the sheets and blankets. I sort of woke up at some point, and slid inside, then proceeded to sleep for 4 hours. I went to bed on time and slept all night. I was truly exhausted.
I am slow this morning, but mainly because I have nothing slated to do, so I am going easy. I do need to run to the bank and library, but other than that, I am not sure what the day will bring. If it is not raining this afternoon, I think I will go for a walk.
Have a great day!
one husband......four kids......debt......sewing...... saving......cooking......yoga......sweet......chaos......life......
The kid is not being parented correctly. She needs help to raise him where he is not hitting her when he is old enough to really hurt her or other people. He is learning how to get his way. He teachers her how to behave. He is desperate for boundaries, so he keeps pushing. There is a hold she and you need to use on him. You get behind him, wrap your arms around him, and hold his arms/hands, and wrap your legs around him if you must. However, watch the kid's head because he will slam you in the mouth with his head. He just needs this to calm him so he can hear what you say. Plus, the tightness calms him. I forgot what it is called, the hold, that is.
ReplyDeleteThree weeks of no sun/gray days would kill me! Go to a store like WM and bathe in the light. K hope you get some relief soon.
She so t let me discipline him. I will say, when he is with us alone, he does act that way as much. He is very hyper, but he does not do those fits. My sister cannot handle anyone telling her how to raise him. She is in for a long, rough life. My kids hugged me hard when they left and said they were so glad I was their mom. People are too afraid to lay down the law when kids are young. I don't even have to discipline teens anymore at all. They know when they do something off and usually it was an accident. My only complaint is they don't do their chores like they should. Gee, that is basically nothing!
DeleteYikes. That sounds terrible. Kids like structure, routine, & consequences. Without that, they struggle. Sure, flexibility is great (and KEY when you are a parent), but kids need discipline.
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